A talk therapy, helping the client to map out their needs and how to achieve them.
This means that you are able to talk freely and absolutely confidentially to your therapist about your feelings, what may have happened to you and how you feel about work, relationships, or any area of your life.
The therapist will help you to understand what is going on and help you to understand and give you help and information on what you may be able to do to help yourself
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
Associated with the positive effect of this component.
It helps the brain to store the trauma to a different part of the brain.
During trauma the brain stores the memory in an active part of the brain which constantly brings the memory to the present.
EMDR moves the memory to a part of the brain which stores the memory, but does not constantly bring it into function.
Hypnosis is ruled by what the client wants, the hypnotist cannot make anyone do anything that is against their wishes or beliefs.
During hypnosis the therapist can speak to the unconscious part of the brain and set goals or desires that the client wants to achieve.
Neuro Linguistic Programming is a method of communication so that when talking to other you not only build rapport quickly, but generally are able to speak to people in the way they want to hear things. It is a way of changing someone’s thoughts and behaviours to help them achieve their desired outcomes. It is a way of changing the way we think, act or file information to our advantage. This is done through communication and changing how we think, fell and act about certain problems which affect our everyday life.
Involves treatment at an unconscious level and allows a client to surrender negative emotions linked to past experiences and transform their internal programming.
In time line therapy we find which way our memories and future are stored.
We are able to release negative memories or habits which are no longer useful to us.
The therapy also offers a breakdown system which looks at the whole of you and corrects that which needs attention.
The breakdown system usually takes about 4-6 hours.
Is based on Ego State Therapy taught by Helen and John Watkins.
They believe that the person is not one homogenous whole, but made up of different parts.
In Resource therapy we speak to the part that is hurt or needs help and give that part what it needs to become healthy.
It is an extremely kind therapy and many clients report that after just one session they feel so much lighter.
It is a remarkable therapy and the client generally only needs a few sessions to complete their treatment.
To explain it a little more imagine a Pirate Ship with one wheel at the helm where the ship is steered from.
Now only one part of the person can steer the ship at any one time.
On the top deck are all our parts which we use daily, which can go to the wheel at any time to help us do whatever it is that we need.
These parts are what we call healthy parts and do not need any help.
Right down the bottom on the ship are the parts of us that we either do no use any more, for example the skill used to ride a tricycle, and also the parts of us that may hold shame, or those parts which are not comfortable in going to the wheel and hold position on the top deck.
These parts we class as unhealthy.
In resource therapy the therapists can allow us to speak directly to these parts and give them what they need to become healthy again.
If you'd like to find out more, contact Yvette.
Most people know how it is to be anxious about many things, including thunder storms, flying, doing a presentation, examinations, to dentists or doctors, and much more, but we are not aware of those people who are not anxious about speaking in public, doing a presentation, standing in front of 3,000 and giving a talk, appearing to be confident, and so at ease, nothing worries them about being on stage, but some of these people suffer from high functioning anxiety.
I can hear you asking, what is high functioning anxiety?
On You Tube you can find high functioning anxiety described by Jordan Raskopoulos, a comedian who suffers from high functioning anxiety, and although this is humorous to watch it is also very true, and explains very clearly how high functioning anxiety can be a hidden anxiety that we don’t notice in others.
For example, when I am partying with a few close friends I can be relaxed and the life and soul of the party, but take me to somewhere I have not been and where there are many new people and I am the one who is sat in the corner, trying not to be noticed.
Why, because it is one of the symptoms of high functioning anxiety.
When out with friends and they arrange to go somewhere new or do something new I will put my hand up to say yeah!
Immediately I have done this I start to think of ways to get out of going, i.e. migraine, flu, unexpected company coming, husband has arranged something else, twisted my ankle, etc., etc.
As a child I was terrified of other children, and every year my father would insist that I had a birthday party, as he had never had one and did not want me to miss out.
It would result in all the children being outside in the garden playing with my new toys and me standing indoors watching them through the window.
My first day at school was an absolute nightmare.
I found a cupboard and when no one was looking I stepped inside and stayed there until a teacher found me.
Playtime was an even bigger nightmare, crowds of children all running around the playground and me, hanging onto a large hook that held the doors back, praying that no one would notice me or come up to me.
This did not change throughout my junior school years.
I made only one friend during this time, who was a girl who was poor and I remember asking her to my house and gave her one of my dolls.
She was so happy, and I felt happy to have done so.
Needless to say that relationship was short lived.
Exams in senior school, were an absolute nightmare too.
So many children in a hall with exams papers in front of them face down and then the teacher would say “you may start” and I would turn the paper over and the first question was Name……… I sat for three hours desperately trying to remember my name.
I don’t think there was anything that I was not afraid of.
Most fearful of all was my Mothers reaction to things.
As I grew older I learnt the art of lying.
I would weigh up the options.
If I told my mother she may well get really angry and lash out, or should I take the option of a lie, and risk being found out.
Very often I would choose the second option.
Having said that I never knew how my mother would react to anything.
Sometimes she would be all sympathy and love and others she would be absolutely furious and strike out.
She did love me, too much really, she wanted me to be the best in everything and in particular to be much better than the girl next door, which I did not achieve.
She had parents that would sit with her and calmly help her with homework, I used to do my homework on the bus coming or going to school so I did not have to bring books out in front of my Mother, and risk her wanting to help me, which ended up with her loosing her temper because I could not remember something that she had just told me.
She once decided to help me with English, and a book was purchased by her showing Nouns, Pronouns, Adverbs, Adjectives etc and she would teach me and my fear alone of getting something wrong would kick in and ended up by her loosing her temper with me.
Needless to say, I still have difficulty in knowing the meaning of an adjective!
Much later in life I moved away from home and meet two Israeli girls who were belly dancers.
I was fascinated and loved dance, and they taught me to belly dance and one day I was asked to dance for one of them who was unwell, I was terrified but once I got on stage a new person developed and I loved the music and the audience held no fear for me.
Much of my working life I have been a consultant to medical specialists, who held no fear for me either (as my mother was afraid of doctors, I became the knight in shining armour and was not).
I learnt that when I put a certain mask on I could be someone else and do amazing things, never fearful to being in front of an audience when on stage, could give talks to hundreds of people and dance in front of a thousand people on stage with no nerves at all.
So why was this?
Much, much later in life I realised that I suffered both from everyday anxiety about everything, but never when I had one of my many masks on.
The only mask I did not have was one for my Mother.
After watching a YouTube by Jordon Raskopoulos on High Functioning Anxiety I could relate to this in so many ways and felt I understood him so well, as this was how I would react.
So now at the age of 73 I understood what it was, but still have not addressed it.
I wonder why??????
Sometimes things happen in your life, which seem quite trivial at the time, but they keep going through your head, particularly at bed time.
Perhaps it is an incident at work, and you go over and over what you should of said or could have said and there is no end to it.
Other times perhaps a friend has said something hurtful, and you cannot understand why, and once again come bedtime this will keep ruminating around and around to try and understand, and what can you do to make it right.
Sometimes you may have reacted badly to a situation and just don’t know how to put it right and there it goes again around and around and around in your head.
Well there are several things you can do to help these situations, depending on the severity of them, but if you cannot solve them yourself withing a short period of time and they keep ruminating then you need help to put them to bed.
As a psychotherapist and counsellor, I have helped many people with these rumination problems and sometimes, in just one session they feel that the matter is resolved.
I am here to help.
Another type of rumination is when someone has passed over and you have not had the chance to say goodbye, whether this is a person or even a pet it is equally traumatic for you and the old words, if only ………. come into play.
We cannot turn the clock back, but I can help you deal with these situations.
Phone me on 0411407149 or book a free 15 minute consultation.
When our minds just don’t seem to switch off, then it is time to learn a few strategies which will help us control that switch which can be set to off.
Sometimes it is just as easy as allocating two periods of 10 minutes each day, which will be our worry time.
At all other times when that worry wort comes up, we just say to ourselves “not now, only in the worry block” and then turn our minds to a positive or happy memory.
Now during worry time, you are not allowed to do anything except worry.
Many people at this stage say to me only 10 minutes twice a day? Surely, I will need more time that this!
Now surprisingly they soon find out that it is really hard to fill these worry times.
Remember no happy thoughts are allowed here, so what shall we have for dinner, just all those ruminating thoughts that have been going through your minds all day.
Once you have practiced this and followed the instructions, you will soon find that this is a really useful tool to eliminate those persistent worries.
Another question I ask when worry seizes me is:
Can I do anything about this problem right now?
If the answer is no then I set that problem aside until later and then ask myself the same question.
Once you realise that there is no answer or action at this moment in time, it is easier to move the problem to your worry time.
I hope this is of help.
If you need extra help contact Yvette Allen and arrange an appointment.
Chances are that if you have answered yes to any of the above, that you are suffering from anxiety or stress.
When we feel overwhelmed by everyday life, there is usually a reason, however, sometimes we don’t know what that reason is.
Some people can have symptoms that resemble having a heart attack, and attend A & E and after a series of tests are told that they are not having a heart attack, but they could be having a panic attack, and these attacks can be caused by stress.
There are many reasons that we can suffer from anxiety or stress, some of which are known, and some are not obvious.
No matter what the reason, contact Yvette and have a 15 minute free consult to discover if she is able to help you.
Contact Yvette on 0411 407149
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