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To be held on 20th and 21st June,2020 at a special price of $660 and for anyone that has problems due to Covid-19 we will try and work out a deal for you too.
Presenters Philipa Thornton Psychologist and Yvette Allen Psychotherapist.
This is an in-depth introduction into an amazing trauma-informed Parts Based Psychotherapy, Theory and Therapy to introduce you to this astounding therapy.
Register here: Please email email@example.com
Or Call 0411 407 149 to register hurry as spaces are strictly limited.
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It seems an age ago we were fighting fires and praying for rain. Now we are fighting an invisible foe in the form of corona virus. The solution sounds easy, just stay home, practice social distancing. Easy. Or is it. After a while staying home and not being able to go out for a coffee with friends, or have people home to dinner, or perhaps unable to go to the shops starts to stress people. We can become snappy and irritable with those in the household. Maybe bored or sick of watching the TV, videos and of reading books. All the things that prior to the restrictions we found to be heavenly to have the time to do so. Such fickle beings are we.
It is not unusual that couples start to fight, as resentment or depression builds so does tension and stress.
I am happy to talk to anyone that is suffering. Take advantage of my offer of free 15 minute consultations.
In the meantime I am busy putting together some steps that you can do to help yourselves. Keep an eye on this page for details.
Stay safe and stay sane.
|Posted in: Stress Anxiety|
So many clients come to me with childhood events that have traumatised them, and they are not even aware of how this happened. This is not unusual, for example some people may have an unexplained irratitional fear of something that they do not have any knowledge as to how that fear either started or began. However, quite often it is something that has been said to them during childhood and up to the age or around 8 or 9 whatever an adult or person in authority tells us we swallow whole as being the absolute truth. It may be something our parent has said as a joke, and I will share with you something my Mother said as a joke when I was a child, that I had a small lump on one of my ears, and she said that meant I was born to be hung. You have no idea how many nights I lay awake terrified of being hung and trying to think of how it would feel and what could I do to stop it.
How often do you see a child crying in a group and the mother or father say "What is wrong with you, all the other children are having a good time, What is wrong with you. BEWARE they believe this wholly and grow up thinking that they are different and that there is something wrong or different about them..
Some children are never actually told they are loved by their parents, and som!e parents just don't know how to show love. Perhaps as children themselves they were not shown love, or had abusive parents, or had parents with a big family and no time. It does not mean they did not love their children, they just did not know how to show love.
I can hear you say, of course they know we love them, but do they? When our children do something that makes us really angry with them, we don't stop to say I love you but am angry with you. No of course not, that would be far too hard, however I do ask that you at some time sit down with your children and tell them that although we sometimes do not like their behaviour, or we are angry with them, that no matter what we do love them unconditionally. We might not like them, but we do not stop loving them.
It is not the presents you buy your children, or the parties you give them, or the opportunities that we give them, that shows our love. It may make them happy and feel loved then, but it is being told that we are deserving of love, and even that sometimes as parents we may not feel able to show it, but no matter what, we love them unconditionally.
If a child has unconditional love, they have self love, and this helps form a well balanced adult
So I am asking you when you give them something, give it with love and not with strings attached. We all have expectations of what we would like our children to grow up to be, but quite often this is not what they choose for themselves, and we have to be prepared to be open to their ideas and to discuss things openly with them without guilt, or our own disappointment in their choices coming into play.
If you can learn to listen to your children and talk to them and not at them, then they will come to you for advice, and if you don't know the answer then tell them you don't and help them to find someone who may be able to help.
It is never too late to start showing love.
and before I finish please spend a little time loving yourself - you are so worth it.
|Posted in: Stress Relationships|
Well you may be surprised to know that I have heard these comments over and over again.
Sometimes we go through life accepting and quite often resenting our partners, but we stay together because it is too hard not to.
When you feel at your wits end, and/or keep ruminating on these comments, then it is time to get some help.
Relationships often end because we don't put the time and effort into understanding what it is that our relationship needs. Quite often what we say is not actually what is heard. Many problems are due to lack of communication, not being able to talk about what has happened, or being able to voice what is wrong.
Yvette Allen helps couples to resolve their problems and go on to repair their relationships.
Your relationship deserves a chance and that is what I help couples to do. Even if it does not end in a happy ever after result, it at least can end with understanding and some form of respect.
Phone Yvette today to book a free 15 minute session to find out how she is able to help you. Phone 0411 407 149
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