Is your child being cyberbullied?
Posted by Yvette Allen
on 27 May 2020
So what signs do we look for to see if our child is a victim of cyberbullying?
Well these tips are not set in concrete, as every child is different and therefore may not react in any particular way, however, some of the more common signs are listed below:
1. Suddenly stops going out
2. Stops associating with regular friends
3. Skips lessons at school
4. Fakes illness on certain days of the week
5. Becomes very isolated, and may spend a lot of time alone in their rooms.
6. Often checks phone
7. Appears anxious
8. Can become abusive if questioned
9. Fear of parents interfering
10. Feels like they have undergone a personality transplant.
What can we do. Unfortunately we cannot be with them 24/7. Even if they don't have access to a mobile phone, their friends most probably do. Encourage schools to give advice on cyberbullying and tell the students what to do if they are a victim.
1. Make sure you are supportive and not judgemental.
2. Become a good listener! Make sure you let them empty out before you speak, and then paraphrase back what you understood from them to make sure it is correct.
3. Don't give unwarranted or unasked for advice. Just Listen.
4. Let them know that you are there to talk to and that you will not take any action without their agreement (of course if there is a likelihood of your child or another being harmed, then this is one promise you may have to break, however this is something you must tell your child before doing so and explain why)
5. Allow them to vent. Listen carefully to what is being said to you, listen but resist the urge to keep asking questions
6. Build their self esteem
7. Ask about their day
8. Encourage them to talk to you or advise them of lifeline numbers, or similar services that they can use for free.
9. Let them know that if they have any problems you are there for them and will support them.
10. Let them speak with other adults and don't ask questions about what.
11. Offer counselling or therapy if you feel they are depressed, or over anxious.
About: Yvette is registered with Resource Therapy International as a Clinical Resource Therapist and a certfied trainer She is also a qualified Counsellor, Clinical Hypnotherapist, and Master Practitioner and Trainer of Hypnosis, Neuro Lingusitic Programming (NLP) and Time Line Therapy®.