The joy of a silent husband!!!

Now I have a great partner, who is wonderful, with just one little, or sometimes large glitch and that is sometimes he just goes silent, with no apparent reason that I am aware of. 

This to many would not be a problem, but to someone who counsels people it tends to be a thorn in  my side. 

I try all the recommended ways to solve the problem or make it not a problem to me, however nothing seems to satisfy me. 

This usually ends up with a few sharp words coming my way and no resolution to what I can only call a problem.

Firstly, I try to ignore it. 

However, after a couple of days this proves to be too hard and does not resolve the issue. 

Secondly, I say very gently that I have noticed that he is very quiet and I wonder if there is a problem and if so can I be of help. 

The answer is a definite NO. 

Then after another day I am getting really worried and feel I must dig deeper. 

I say that I know there is something bothering him and feel that it would be of benefit to talk it over with me, especially if I am the problem.  I get a definite “There is no problem, just leave me alone”. 

Easier said than done.  Another two days pass and still the silent monitor is on. 

So I play a guessing game – Did you know……, Does that worry you?...... Answer is more silence or a definite grunt. 

Then in desperation I try the “I know there is something worrying you and it is really worrying me to see you like this” 

This brings out a “For goodness sake let it be, there is nothing wrong”. 

Still the silence continues.  I leave well alone while I rack my brains for what may be wrong, then the penny clicks I spent $190 at the supermarket, many times he has said just buy what you want and no extras. 

So, I put this into practice for a week, then ask if he has noticed, the answer is No, why should he. 

Now this is fighting talk, but I bite my tongue.  Not an easy task for a Leo!!!! 

This then leads to what I have done wrong, he answers nothing, for goodness sake just leave him alone. 

Now after another couple of weeks of silence he suddenly will tell me what is worrying him. 

Usually this is about the future, my spending and our finances.   Now I have not bought a new outfit to wear since my daughter got married in 2019. 

This of course eventually leads to my buying something new. 

Then I am all dressed up and no where to GO. 

So, I suggest we go out to dinner, not an expensive dinner, just a Thai or Chinese.  He says OK and we go.  The next day there is still silence.  

Scream…………………….  I just have to get to the bottom of this.

Well all that worry, all that anxiety and it turns out that he is just busy at work and it is catching up with him, but he has offloaded some to his assistant and now feels much better!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The joy of a silent husband!!!